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My name is Simon O’Donovan MBE. I’ve worked in NHS Wales for most of my adult life, supporting people with dementia, their carers and families and developing and improving services to benefit this client group. 

I recently retired from working as a Community Mental Health Nurse within a Young Onset Dementia Service. I continue to contribute to weekly CST 'Friendship Group' sessions as a volunteer co-facilitator.

 

I've been keeping a weekly 'Young Dementia CST Blog' to share and archive our activities resources, with the ultimate aim of providing an 'off the shelf' resource library of weekly themed CST sessions which can be used on rotation throughout the year. 

 

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Valentine's Day 14th Feb

February 13, 2019

 

 

“This life is what you make it. No matter what, you're going to mess up sometimes, it's a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you're going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends - they'll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything - they're your true best friends. Don't let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they'll come and go too. And baby, I hate to say it, most of them - actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can't give up because if you give up, you'll never find your soulmate. You'll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn't mean you're gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life's a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about.”
Marilyn Monroe


Before embarking on this week's CST activities, a reminder to know your individual group members well. Their lives, loves and losses, as far as is possible and appropriate to ask in biographical assessment. Adjust the questions and discussion points below accordingly.

We started this week's activities with a glass of sparking (non alcohol) wine, strawberries and chocolates, to get everyone in the mood for discussing Valentines Day. Also we passed around a bowl of ‘Love Heart’ sweets and everyone read out their message.

We raised our glasses for a toast - "To everyone's health, wealth and happiness." "Iechyd da" is also said in Welsh before a drink and means 'Good health'.

We then passed everyone a red rose, after checking for thorns, and asked people to comment on the smell and feel of their flower and the memories it evoked.

 

 


NEWS ROUND UP

Gordon Banks, 1966 World Cup winning goalkeeper died, aged 81. Pele described the England player as “a goal keeper with magic ... and a fine human being.”

‘The Favourite’ dominated the Bafta film awards, picking up seven accolades. Among its haul were best actress for Olivia Colman and best supporting actress for Rachel Weisz.
Mexican film ‘Roma’ won best film, while Rami Malek won best actor for playing Freddie Mercury in ‘Bohemian Rhapsody’.

Alan Turing was announced the winner of the BBC ‘Icons Of The 20th Century’. A gifted mathematician, Turing is regarded as the father of the computer. He broke the Enigma Code in his top secret work in the Second World War at Bletchley Park. And ‘Turing’s Law’, that posthumously pardoned 65,000 gay men convicted of ‘gross indecency’ offences was named after him in 2013.

‘Desert Island Discs’ was named the greatest radio programme of all time by a panel of industry experts. The BBC Radio 4 show, which since 1942 has been inviting famous guests to share their favourite musical choices, beat drama ‘The Archers’ to the top spot. Other choices in the Radio Times poll included ‘Wake Up To Wogan’, ‘John Peel’ and ‘Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy’.

Has anyone listened to any of these programmes?

Can’t anyone remember the things celebrities get to take to their desert island?
BIBLE, COMPLETE WORKS OF SHAKESPEARE, FAVOURITE BOOK OF CHOICE, FAVOURITE RECORD OF CHOICE & LUXURY ITEM
What would members take as their luxury item?

Where is ‘The Archers’ set?
AMBRIDGE

What is the answer to “Life, the universe and everything?”
42 (Calculated over 7.5m years by the computer ‘Deep Thought’)
 

 


IDIOMS & PROVERBS

Have a change of - HEART
A heart of - GOLD
Having a heart-to-heart - TALK
My heart skipped a - BEAT
Home is where the - HEART - is
Love at first - SIGHT
A labor of - LOVE
From the bottom of my - HEART
No love - LOST
Puppy - LOVE
Blind - DATE
Fall head over - HEELS - in love
All you need is - LOVE
All's fair in love and - WAR
Cupboard - LOVE
Love - RAT
For the love of - PETE
It's a love / hate - RELATIONSHIP
Love is - BLIND
No love lost - BETWEEN - them
Love conquers - ALL
Not for love nor - MONEY
Tough - LOVE
Love is a - DRUG
Love is a - MANY SPLENDOURED THING
First - LOVE
Out of sight out of - MIND
Absence makes the heart grow - FONDER
The way to a man's heart is through his - STOMACH
Beauty is only skin - DEEP
Actions speak louder than - WORDS
My love is like a red red - ROSE
All good things must come to - AN END
Better to have loved and lost than never - LOVED AT ALL

 

 


QUIZ

We then moved on to some questions about Valentines Day, to get the discussion going.

What is the date of Valentines Day?
14th FEBRUARY

 

Who is said to be the Welsh Saint Valentine (Welsh patron saint of lovers)?

SANTE DWYNWEN (25th January is his feast day)

What does the word Valentine mean?
SWEETHEART

What is the original meaning of an X on a Valentine's card? - Illiterate people would sign their name with a cross and kiss it for SINCERITY
(Today people sign with an X to maintain ANONYMITY.)

Who is the Greek goddess of love?
APHRODITE

And the Roman goddess of love?
VENUS

Who was the legendary Benedictine monk who invented champagne?
DOM PERIGNON

Where is the Statue of Cupid in London?
PICADILLY CIRCUS

If you’re quick to show your feelings, where do you wear your heart?
ON YOUR SLEEVE

If a red rose is a symbol of love, what are Rosemary and White Lily emblems for?
REMEMBRANCE & PURITY

Which famous building in America lights up a red heart each St Valentine's Day?
EMPIRE STATE BUILDING IN NEW YORK

What is the popular Channel 4 TV show where people meet in a restaurant and sometimes fall in love?
FIRST DATES

What was the ITV show starring Cilla Black where a person would choose another to date out of three hopefuls?
BLIND DATE
(Paul O'Grady hosts it today)

Has anyone ever been on a blind date?
Do people believe in love at first sight?

Some people find romance on social media. On which app would you swipe right if you fancied someone?
TINDER

Roses are red, violets are blue... What comes next traditionally?
... SUGAR IS SWEET,
AND SO ARE YOU

Name of a sweet with a live message written on it?
LOVE HEART

What surnames did the Shakespeare characters Romeo & Juliet have?
MONTAGUE & CAPULET

Plus or minus 100 years, what date was the first recorded Valentine Card sent?
1415

Who played Shirley Valentine in the film of the same name?
PAULINE COLLINS
(Starring alongside Tom Conte)

Name the leader of the Chicago gangsters responsible for the St Valentines Day Massacre in 1929?
AL CAPONE

Nowadays we give chocolates, cards or flowers on Valentines Day. What was given as a gift before these modern day traditions?
A PAIR OF GLOVES, indicating you wanted the person's hand in marriage

If you are engaged to a person, how do you refer to them?
Your BETROTHED or more commonly FIANCE

Who is supposed to walk the bride down the isle at the wedding?
HER FATHER

 

Who walked Meghan Markle, Prince Harry's wife, down the isle on 19th May 2018?

PRINCE CHARLES (Her father was indisposed)

What is the proper name for a wedding ceremony?
NUPTIALS

What is Cockney Rhyming Slang for 'Wife'?
TROUBLE AND STRIFE

And husband?
POT AND PAN (OLD MAN)

What is a 'Shotgun Wedding'?
WHEN THE BRIDE’S FATHER FORCES THE WEDDING BECAUSE HIS DAUGHTER IS PREGNANT

What is an 'Arranged Marriage'?
WHEN FAMILIES ARRANGE A WEDDING OF THEIR CHILDREN WHO MAY NOT NECESSARILY HAVE MET EACH OTHER

Where in Scotland would you elope to for a 'Quickie Wedding'?
GRETNA GREEN

Finish this well known phrase, "She loves me, ......"?
SHE LOVES ME NOT (usually said whilst picking the petals off a daisy, one at a time)

What are the anniversary symbols or gifts for 1 year married, 10 years, 25 years, 30 years, 50 years and 60 years?
PAPER, TIN, SILVER, PEARL, GOLD & DIAMOND

What were the female member’s bridal gowns like?
What colour boquets and kind of flowers did members have?
What about the first dance, can people remember their song?
Where did people go on honeymoon?

Where did the renowned 18th Century womaniser or some say great lover Giacomo Casanova live? (A clue is he liked to take part in masked balls)
VENICE

What does S.W.A.L.K. mean on a Valentines envelope?
SEALED WITH A LOVING KISS

What children's sweet has a different affectionate message on each one?
LOVE HEARTS

Who wrote "Tis better to have loved and lost,  Than never to have loved at all"?
ALFRED LORD TENNYSON

According to an old English tradition, what is supposed to happen to the first man a woman sees on Valentine's Day?
HE MARRIES HER

What year did Same Sex Marriage become legal in the UK?
10 DECEMBER 2014

True or false: Swans mate for life
TRUE
(And they make a heart shape when their necks intertwine. Aw!)

 

 


TOP TWENTY ROMANTIC FILMS

Ask the group to list their favourite romantic or rom com films.
Some must haves to get you going or check against follow ...

(Print film posters for the tables to help conversation and remembering.)


1940 'Gone With The Wind'
Clarke Gable and Vivien Leigh
"After all, tomorrow is another day."

1942 'Casablanca'
Humphry Bogart and Ingrid Bergman
"Of all the gin joints, in all the towns, in all the world, she walks into mine!"

1945 'Brief Encounter'
Celia Johnson and Trevor Howard
"I love you. I love your wide eyes, the way you smile, your shyness, and the way you laugh at my jokes."

1957 'An Affair To Remember'
Carry Grant and Deborah Kerr
"Winter must be cold for those with no warm memories... we've already missed the spring!"
 
1961 'Breakfast At Tiffanys'
Audrey Hepburn and George Peppard
“You call yourself a free spirit, a "wild thing," and you're terrified somebody's gonna stick you in a cage."

1971 - 'Love Story'?
Starring Ryan O'Neal and Ali McGraw
"Love means never having to say you're sorry."

1987 'Dirty Dancing'
Patrick Swayze and Jennifer Grey
"Nobody puts Baby in a corner!"

1989 'When Harry Met Sally'
Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan
"I'll have what she's having!"

1990 'Pretty Woman'
Richard Gere and Julia Roberts
"I appreciate this whole seduction thing you've got going on here, but let me give you a tip: I'm a sure thing."

1993 'Sleepless In Seattle'
Tom Hanke and Meg Ryan
"I knew it the first time I saw her. It was like coming home, only to no home I'd ever known. I was just taking her hand to help her out of a car and I knew. It was...magic."

(Loosely based on the 1957 Cary Grant and Deborah Kerr film ‘An Affair To Remember’)

1994 'Four Weddings And A Funeral'
Hugh Grant and Andie MacDowell
"Gareth used to prefer funerals to weddings. He said it was easier to get enthusiastic about a ceremony one had an outside chance of eventually being involved in."

1997 'Titanic'
Leonardo DiCapro and Kate Winslet
"I'm the king of the world!"

(The Titanic disaster was on 14th April 1912; more than 1,500 souls were lost)

1999 'Notting Hill'
Hugh Grant and Julia Roberts
"I'm also just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her."

2001 'Bridget Jones's Diary'
Rene Zeleger, Colin Firth and Hugh Grant
“It is a truth universally acknowledged that when one part of your life starts going okay, another falls spectacularly to pieces.”

2003 'Love Actually'
Hugh Grant and Martine McCucheon
“If you look for it, I've got a sneaky feeling you'll find that love actually is all around.”
 

 


VALENTINES MUSIC QUIZ

Spotify Playlist here https://open.spotify.com/user/1154769589/playlist/78pY4EroDUGIaYI93X2KKE?si=00BOQ5zVQUOnaWz_kXCm9Q

(There’s a lot here. You might want to pre-choose a selection before starting.)

1. Love Theme From Romeo And Juliet - Henry Salomon
This was the theme for which Radio 1 love story slot on ‘The Simon Bates Show’?
OUR TUNE

2. And I Love You So - Don McClean
Don McClean sang another song about a US desert. What was that called?
AMERICAN PIE

3. Baby I'm A Want You - Bread
Who was the lead singer and songwriter of the group Bread?
DAVID GATES
Think of some different types of bread?
COB, BATCH, TIN, TIGER, SOURDOUGH, RYE, WHOLEMEAL, GRANARY ETC

4. My Baby Just Cares For Me - Nina Simone
This 1958 hit was re-released in 1987 after featuring in a TV advert for what?
CHANEL PERFUME
(The video was Nina recreated as a singing cat!)

5. Can't Take My Eyes Off You - Frankie Valli
What was Frank Valli's group called?
THE FOUR SEASONS
(What season are we in now?)

6. Dedicated To The One I Love - Mamas And Papas
What was Mama Cass’s real name?
CASS ELLIOT

7. (Everything I Do) I Do It For You - Bryan Adams
Which 1991 film starring Kevin Costner was this song written for?
ROBIN HOOD (PRINCE OF THIEVES)
Name some of the characters?
ROBIN HOOD, MAID MARIAN, SHERIFF OF NOTTINGHAM, FRIAR TUCK, LITTLE JOHN, MEN IN TIGHTS

(The events were said to have taken place in Sherwood Forest)

8. God Only Knows - The Beach Boys
What year was this song released and what album was it from?
MAY 1966; PET SOUNDS
Who was the lead singer songwriter?
BRIAN WILSON

What sport was their music associated with?

SURFING

9. How Deep Is Your Love - Bee Gees
Who is the only surviving brother Gibb?
BARRY
What film was this song from?
SATURDAY NIGHT FEVER

10. I Think I Love You - David Cassidy
Which family show did David Cassidy star in?
THE PARTRIDGE FAMILY
(Did anyone have a poster of David Cassidy on their wall as a teenager?)
 
11. I'm A Believer - The Monkees
Who was lead singer of The Monkees?
DAVEY JONES
What are ‘The Three Wise Monkees’?
Mizaru, covering his eyes, who SEES NO EVIL; Kikazaru, covering his ears, who HEARS NO EVIL; and Iwazaru, covering his mouth, who SPEAKS NO EVIL

12. Puppy Love - Donny Osmond
Donny’s little brother Jimmy had a hit single aged 9 in 1972 with which song?
I’LL BE YOUR LONG HAIRED LOVER FROM LIVERPOOL

What religion are the Osmonds?

MORMONS (based in Salt Lake, Utah)

13. Lovin' You - Minnie Ripperton
It's time for a sing along. Get the group to 'la la la la la' with the chorus.
In which season was this song set in?
SPRINGTIME (in lyrics)
 
14. Oh Lori - Alessi Brothers
The Alessi Brothers are identical twins. Does anyone have a twin in their family, or among their friends?
What about other famous twins?
RONNIE & REGGIE KRAY, MATT & LUKE GOSS,

15. Love Is In The Air - John Paul Young
This song featured in which 1992 romantic Australian film about competitive dancing?
STRICTLY BALLROOM
Which BBC dance show is based on this film?
STRICTLY COME DANCING

16. The Air That I Breathe - The Hollies
What is the main constituent of the air that we breathe?
NITROGEN - 78% (Oxygen is only 21%)

17. I'm Not In Love - 10CC
Which two 10CC band members went on to form a successful pop duo?
KEVIN GODLEY & LOL CREME

18. It Must Be Love - Labi Siffre
Which group had a major hit with this song again in 1981?
MADNESS

19. You To Me Are Everything - The Real Thing
Which soft drink had the slogan “It’s the real thing”?
COCA COLA

20. You’re The First, My Last, My Everything - Barry White
What was Barry White otherwise known as?
THE WALRUS OF LOVE

21. Endless Love - Diana Ross
Who is singing with Diana Ross on this track?
LIONEL RICHIE
Which female group did Diana Ross lead?
THE SUPREMES

 22. Moon River - Audrey Hepburn
What was her character's name in the film 'Breakfast At Tiffanys'?
MISS HOLLY GOLIGHTLY
Who was her co-star?
GEORGE PEPPARD
 
23. Unchained Melody - The Righteous Brothers
What film used this piece of music in ‘The Potter’s Wheel’ scene?
GHOST (Starring Patrick Swayze & Demi Moore)

24. Can’t Help Falling In Love - Elvis Presley
Who was Elvis Presley’s wife?
PRISCILLA PRESLEY

25. When I Fall In Love - Nat King Cole
How did Prince Charming awaken Sleeping Beauty?
WITH A KISS

26. Silly Love Songs - Wings
How do you say ‘I love you’ in French?
JE T’AIME
Italian?
TI AMO

German?

ICH LIEBE DICH
Welsh?
RWY’N DY GARU DI

(Add nationalities and languages as appropriate to the group)

27. Time Of My Life - Bill Medley & Jennifer Warnes
What film does this song come from?
DIRTY DANCING
Starring whom?
PATRICK SWAYZE & JENNIFER GREY

28. I Will Always Love You - Whitney Houston
Who originally wrote and recorded this song?
DOLLY PARTON
What film did Whitney Houston sing it in?
THE BODYGUARD (Co-starring Kevin Costner)

29. What A Wonderful World - Louis Armstrong
What was Louis Armstrong’s nickname?
SACHMO

 

30.  My Heart Will Go On - Celine Dion

What nationality is Celine Dion?

CANADIAN

What shipping line did Titanic sail under?

WHITE STAR LINE

What was the name of the jewel lost at the end of the film?

HEART OF THE OCEAN

Members should all be feeling the love after that playlist. Together, make a heart shape with our fingers and thumbs, close our eyes and blow a kiss to our special someone.
 

 


ACTIVITIES

Make collage Valentines Day Cards. Print off old Victorian cards from the internet and cut them up to reuse and refashion them.

Make origami hearts. Instruction video here https://youtu.be/CN4oPm9bCWE

Make origami roses. Instruction video here https://youtu.be/jm_4hFPFAOU



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